Orgasmic Water Births: Our Lost Birthright

Scene from ‘Nine Months’ movie

Just the thought of giving birth today is enough to trigger fear in the minds of many modernized women. Bombarded with Hollywood movie scenes of women screaming in pain while laboring and giving birth in a hospital, many women opt for the epidural anesthesia to numb themselves and avoid feeling anything down there. The fear and numbing epidural, together with having women give birth lying on their backs or with their head or back raised up on a bed (instead of squatting), are major contributors to delivery complications such as long and painful labor, fetal distress, and vaginal tears; and emergency interventions such as episiotomy (vagina is surgically cut to prevent larger tears), forceps and/or vacuum extraction, and Cesarean sections (a.k.a., C-sections). For women who opt not to use any anesthesia during childbirth, most report it as very painful and do end up screaming like in the movies. The good news is that childbirth was never meant to be painful, but in fact, be naturally orgasmic. Having experienced three orgasmic water births (i.e., giving birth to a baby under water), I am living proof that this is true and luckily, I am not the only woman in the world to report this.

To understand why childbirth is such a nightmare today compared to what it was originally designed to be, we need to first understand the history and symbolism of childbirth in order to understand the unconscious psychology that ultimately drives our behavior and experience.

The History of Water Births

Though all other land mammals give birth on land, humans are the exception to the rule for the many reasons stated in the Birth and Babies article on The Aquatic Human Ancestor Theory web site. This is not the first time humans have differentiated themselves from the animal kingdom. Though humans share a lot in common with the animal kingdom, humans also have a lot of characteristics and behaviors that also make them very different from other animals and the birthing process is one of them. Historical artifacts and records tell us that the history of water birth began as long ago as birth itself (The History of Waterbirth, 2012). Giving birth in water makes a lot of sense for humans for the following reasons:

  • Human embryos develop for their entire gestation in a watery substance called the amniotic fluid
  • After some 40 weeks spent in a water-filled womb, a newborn’s body is 90% water
  • Swimming or floating in water during the later stages of pregnancy provides such a relief from gravity for the woman, relieving her joints, bones, aching muscles, intestines, and other organs which then allows the blood (and therefore oxygen) to circulate more freely throughout her body
  • Being in warm or semi-hot water (similar to a spa or warm bathtub of water) relaxes everyone but even more so for a very pregnant woman who is so weighed down by gravity and needs the warmth of the water to relax all her muscles (which is very important for a quick and easy delivery).
  • Being relaxed and peaceful during labor actually encourages the production of endorphins which is the body’s natural pain killer as well as oxytocin, the orgasmic ecstasy or “love” hormone which is also naturally released during love-making for orgasmic contractions and bonding purposes. On the other hand, being stressed, tense, or fearful encourages the production of adrenaline, the stress hormone produced by the adrenal glands which puts the body in fight or flight mode. In this mode, the production of oxytocin stops, the sensitivity to pain is intensified, tightening up all the muscles which will then prolong the labor, increase pain, cause fetal distress, and increase the chances of vaginal tears, episiotomy, forceps and/or vacuum extraction, and C-sections.
  • Babies born into warm water will experience a much more peaceful birth because of the lack of shock from one warm watery environment inside the womb to another warm watery environment outside the womb. This is the reason why water-birthed babies tend not to cry at birth, score higher on the Apgar scale (newborn health assessment scoring system), and tend to be more alert and interested in their environment at birth. It also makes sense that women who are peaceful and happy during their labor tend to give birth to peaceful and happy (trauma-free) newborn babies.
  • Since the baby came from a watery womb environment, they will not attempt to breathe with their nose, mouth and lungs when they are born into another watery environment so the baby cannot drown since they continue to get oxygen through the placenta and umbilical cord. Only when their face is exposed to air do they automatically take in their first breath through their nose, mouth and lungs. This allows the transition to breathing air with their lungs to be as non-traumatic as possible since the parents can take their time once the baby is out and in the external watery environment before they gently lift the baby out of the water to take its first lung breath.
  • Newborns have what is called the diving reflex. As soon as a newborn’s face is re-immersed into the water, a metabolic shift occurs, forcing the heart rate to slow down and the throat to close off so they automatically hold their breath, open their eyes, remain calm, and spread their arms and legs wide apart to float and start kicking to swim. When they need air they automatically know to swim to the nearest person or swim up to the surface for air. Newborns also demonstrate the ability to flip over on their back to float in the water when they get tired. This reflex is the strongest in newborns so it is important to keep putting newborns in water so they can continue to use this reflex for the rest of their life, otherwise they will lose it by the age of 1 or 2 and will have to retaught how to hold their breath and swim again later on. Human newborns were designed to dive and swim before learning how to crawl, walk and talk.
  • With the exception of seals, human babies and fetuses are significantly fatter than any other species. This thick layer of fat all over the body of newborns serves to not only provide the best insulation in cold water, but also makes the newborn naturally buoyant.
  • Unlike our ape cousins, human women have large fatty breasts which float in water making it very easy for her to breastfeed her floating baby. The umbilical cord in humans is also very long so that a woman standing at chest height in water can bring her baby to her breast at the surface while the placenta is still in her uterus.
  • Human fetuses completely lose their lanugo (a fine coat of hair/fur) by the eight month of gestation so they are born furless meaning we lost a means of insulating ourselves on land and gained a far more efficient way of insulating ourselves in water.
  • Human newborns are born with the thickest layer of Vernix Caseosa (a white fatty/greasy coating on the skin which consists of sebum excreted by sebaceous glands, mixed with dead skin cells). In fact, the only other known mammal that gives birth to babies covered in vernix is the seal. Harbour seals are born on land but enter the water 30 minutes or so after birth. They are covered in a layer of Vernix Caseosa that is somewhat thinner than that of human babies. Grey seals who enter the water several hours after birth are born with an even thinner coat and hooded seals that don’t enter the water for over a day have an almost undetectable coating, so there seems to be a correlation between the thickness of the vernix layer and the time at which the newborn will enter the water. It is safe to conclude then that the thicker Vernix Caseosa on human newborns serve to make the newborn more waterproof for a longer period of time because they are born immediately into the water and stay in the water for a longer period.

Symbolism of Childbirth

The process of giving birth symbolizes in the human psyche the bringing forth of Unconditional Love. To learn or understand the symbolic representation of anything, we must first understand how things were naturally designed to work on the physical level so that we can then identify how it is represented on the non-physical level (i.e., emotional, mental and spiritual level). Before birth can happen, a real man and a real woman (i.e., as opposed to being artificially programmed by culture, religion, government, schools, media, family, society, etc.) were designed to fall in Love and want to make Love. In the process of making Love, a baby is conceived and grows and develops in the womb of the woman and finally enters the outside world through the process of birth. Now that we understand how it was naturally designed to work on the physical level (see Monogamy: The Ultimate Path to Spiritual Enlightenment blog article is you are not fully convinced yet that this is actually natural), we can now extrapolate to the non-physical level. A woman and a man represent on the mental, emotional, and spiritual level the polar opposites of Life, the Yin and the Yang duality of Life. When the Yin and the Yang merge through the act of Love, what is conceived on the non-physical level is Unconditional Love which by definition goes beyond all opposing duality and Loves no matter what without any condition. It is the highest expression of being human, the new human, so the act of birth symbolizes the bringing forth of Unconditional Love in the world. Most would agree that in a newborn’s presence it is very easy to feel the energy of Unconditional Love.

What Can Make a Birth Orgasmic

With this understanding of what birth symbolizes in the human psyche, a woman who is capable of bringing forth Unconditional Love in this world will have a higher chance of having an orgasmic birth because Unconditional Love can only feel blissful. This does not mean that the woman must have exhibited the qualities of Unconditional Love every moment of her life, but that she has loved unconditionally in her life enough that she will have a higher chance of experiencing Unconditional Love or Bliss during the birthing process. To understand the nature of an orgasmic birth, we must understand the difference between a genital-based orgasm and a whole-body Bliss orgasm. A genital-based orgasm is the type of orgasm most people who have experienced sexual orgasms know and are familiar with. It is a short, concentrated peak of pleasure located in the genital area. Not many people, however, have experienced a whole-body Bliss orgasm before because it requires stimulation of all four multi-dimensional bodies simultaneously: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. This is the type of orgasm a woman was designed to experience during the birthing process because all levels of her being are naturally stimulated in a healthy pregnancy and birthing process when the woman is capable of bringing forth Unconditional Love in this world (as defined in this paragraph).

As one can now see, in order to increase one’s chances of having an orgasmic birth, one must not only be capable of bringing forth Unconditional Love in this world, but one must:

  • Believe and know at a deep level that giving birth is designed by Mother Nature to be a very pleasurable experience (just like the process of conceiving, if not even more pleasurable) to not only prevent the extinction of the species, but to ensure that it thrives in the most optimal way. The first impression of life is always the biggest so never underestimate the power or impact of birth trauma or birth bliss on a person’s life.
  • Be in an advanced monogamous relationship (see Monogamy: The Ultimate Path to Spiritual Enlightenment blog article to learn more)
  • Give birth in warm water with your life partner and in a safe environment (preferably in the comfort of one’s home and surrounded by loved ones). A doula and/or midwife are optional.
  • Be sensual, sexually sensitive, easy to orgasm, and multi-orgasmic, as well as loving and nurturing. The woman should not have any unresolved sexual issues or issues related to motherhood, but instead be at her sexual best (the Nymph archetype) and loving best (the Virgin Mary archetype). Women can make love before and during labor though it is not necessary to have an orgasmic birth.
  • Easily enter deep states of meditation (i.e., the Zone). In other words, fully live in the moment during labor, be open to feeling everything, turn inwards and deeply tune into your body, your baby, and yourself in an instinctual mode (no thoughts, just feeling and peaceful action). Amant, 2016

In humans, sex is not just for procreation. It is actually also for pleasure as a way to express Love physically between monogamous pairs which form the foundation of children and families and therefore society. For example, the only purpose of the female clitoris is to produce pleasure. It has no other biological function. It can experience a kind of orgasm referred to as the clitoral orgasm. The vagina can also produce pleasurable sensations when lovingly stimulated by a penis and can also have its own orgasm (referred to as a vaginal orgasm) especially when the clitoris is also stimulated. However, unlike the clitoris which is solely for pleasure, the vagina also has the purpose of giving birth. The good news is that the vagina and uterus can orgasm with pleasurable contractions during conception and can also produce pleasurable contractions during labor and birth. The vagina and uterus were designed to be extremely flexible and can expand enough to push a baby through comfortably and pleasurably without any damage and then shrink back to their original size.

How a Hospital Can Cause Birth Complications

If you can deprogram yourself from the fear that is not only caused by the media and medical establishment, but by the fear caused by your own life wounds and insecurities, then your chances of having a healthy pregnancy and therefore healthy birth process will negate the need for a hospital which specializes in medical emergencies and care of the injured and sick. According to the Save the Children foundation, the U.S. has the second worst newborn death rate among all industrialized nations (Green, 2006). A hospital can actually cause birth complications by:

  • Being in an environment of sick and injured people can only be stressful to those in that environment. This is far from an ideal place to bring new life into the world. Stressed doctors, nurses, birthing moms, and their spouse is a recipe for birth complications.
  • Being stressed will make the woman produce adrenaline which will increase her sensitivity to pain and therefore she will most likely ask for an epidural. Numbing the lower part of her body will disconnect her from her birthing instinct (make her lose control of her body) and her baby so she will not know when to push and when to relax, or how hard or soft to push, which can then increase the risk of vaginal tears and other complications.
  • Hospitals are known to have the highest concentration of medical waste or bio-hazards (i.e., lethal viruses, bacteria, infectious diseases/tissues, parasites, toxic wastes, etc.)
  • According to clairvoyants, hospitals also have the highest concentration of ghosts, entities, and dark hyper-dimensional non-human beings (see Beyond the Earth Matrix: Soul Harvesting int he Cosmic Matrix & How to Free Yourself blog article to learn more)
  • Most conventional hospitals will have the woman give birth in a lying down with head/back propped up position which is a completely unnatural way to give birth (but most convenient for the doctor). Lying down goes against the force of gravity and makes it extremely hard to engage the birthing muscles which significantly increases the chances of complications.
  • Childbirth is the number one cause of hospital admissions and hospitals make even more money when there are complications because additional procedures are needed. This is the reason why the rate of C-sections are abnormally high in the U.S., for example. It is estimated that more than 50% of them are unnecessary. Elective C-sections are growing in popularity now because of the convenience of scheduling a birth for both the doctor and parents and the promise of bypassing a long and arduous labor. Never underestimate the power of money to unconsciously influence people’s judgement, rationalization, and therefore decisions and behavior. See The Business of Being Born documentary below to learn more.

Hospitals make sense if you have a high-risk pregnancy, otherwise, research alternative birthing options and prenatal care (e.g., get prenatal check-ups with a midwife instead of an obstetrician). If you are still fearful and want to make sure you have access to a hospital if you need it, you could choose a location that is near a hospital. Having a doula and/or midwife in attendance can also alleviate fears you may have as these people are trained and experienced in the childbirth process and will be able to let you know if you do need to go to a hospital or not. Some hospitals even offer a water birth option.

My Own Personal Experience

As a number 8 soul (according to my numerology chart), I value the most personal power. Because I value personal power the most, I want others to have their own personal power as well and feel very disgusted when a person gives their personal power away to me. For this reason, giving birth in a hospital never made sense to me because it meant that I was giving my power away to doctors and nurses to direct and manage my birth experience. It feels so natural to me that I would direct and be in control of my own birth experience with my beloved husband JAL by my side. It also made sense to me that giving birth is one of the most natural things in the world and that a woman’s body is designed to give birth easily and with pleasure just like conceiving a child is pleasurable to ensure the propagation and success of the species. So I researched alternative birthing options and discovered water birth and instinctively knew that this was the kind of birth I wanted to experience. To alleviate any fears JAL may have had about it, we hired a midwife for prenatal check-ups and for at home water birth attendance. I took very good care of myself by eating well, exercising regularly as if I was not pregnant, made love frequently, and continued my yoga and meditation practice.

Our midwife was Lori Walker from South Coast Midwifery. Click image to visit her web site.

First-time moms typically endure long and arduous labor in the modern world so our midwife decided to show up almost four hours after the labor uterine contractions began for the birth of my first son Max. She almost missed his birth because he came out in under four hours of labor which really amazed the midwife and her assistant as they were use to labors of 18 to 48 hours for first-time moms. They came just in time to witness JAL catching Max when he came out under water in our bathtub. We then gently lifted his head out of the water for his first breath but kept the rest of his body in the water for about 20 minutes while I snuggled with him and started breastfeeding. The entire labor and birthing process was so peaceful and blissful. I automatically went into a deep state of meditation. I felt so much energy flow through my body with each uterine contraction. My entire genital area was engorged with energy, oxygen and blood flow it felt so good and the energy radiated throughout my entire body and being. Witnessing and experiencing the entrance of a soul to this world is the most amazing and miraculous experience ever if done in natural and healthy conditions.

My second son Renzi arrived in similar conditions only his labor lasted less than two hours (probably because I was exercising at the gym almost daily up to the day he was born). This time the midwife came on her own shortly after labor contractions began so she did not miss much. My third child and only daughter Allegra also was an orgasmic birth and her labor lasted about four and a half hours.

None of my three babies cried when they were born. They were just peaceful, alert and so so precious! All three of them scored very highly on the Apgar scale and the midwife kept on commenting on how radiant they each looked. Each of them weighed 7 to 8 pounds and were 19 to 20 inches at birth. I did not gain any superfluous fat or weight with any of my three pregnancies so my abdomen was flat within hours after giving birth. Postpartum bleeding was minimal and stopped quickly and sexual activity was resumed by the third day. Physically I felt great until the lack of sleep started kicking in so I slept whenever I was not breastfeeding. Luckily, each of my three babies started sleeping through the night at two months of age and were such easy babies to take care of. From birth to now teenagers with Max turning 18 in March 2018, I have rarely witnessed any sibling rivalry between them but instead they have always been the best of friends and are inseparable. It’s interesting that I get so many comments from other parents regarding how amazing it is that the Luzardo siblings are so close and do not fight, argue, or compete with one another for attention. I attribute it all to their peaceful and blissful entrance into this world.

How the Birth Experience Can Affect a Person for the Rest of Their Life

There is a myth that since most people cannot consciously recollect memories prior to age two, then whatever happens to them before that age including in utero do not affect them at all. However, when one understands how the unconscious and conscious mind work, then it will be easy to see that events that happen from conception to the age of two actually have an even greater impact on the psychology of human beings than any other period of their life. The unconscious mind is the automatic part of the mind that records everything that happens to a person in their life. It is said to exist since conception because it is not rooted only in the brain like the conscious mind but it is rooted in every cell of the human body, otherwise known as cell memory. The purpose of the conscious mind is to work with data stored in the unconscious as well as process data currently being inputted and use the data to assess situations and make decisions, or to create entirely new data. The conscious mind can only hold within its working memory a finite amount of information whereas the unconscious is capable of unlimited data storage. The more developed the conscious mind, the more information it can work with or process simultaneously and therefore can make more accurate assessments (understand more) and make better decisions (which then drives actions).

Prior to the age of two, most people do not have a conscious mind yet which is why most have no conscious memory recollection prior to age two. However, when theses people are regressed under hypnosis to go back prior to age two, memories stored in their unconscious mind are accessed and revealed. The conscious mind does not start to develop until around the age of two and is usually pretty developed by the age of six. When past events are fully processed by the conscious mind (i.e., not only recollecting what actually happened in that past event, but also processing the emotions and thoughts that occurred, understanding the deep life lessons or spiritual implications, and eventually coming to terms with the event), the negative past event stored in the unconscious will not have any negative affect on the person’s emotional and mental health. Therefore, if most people cannot consciously recollect what happened prior to age two, then any negative event that happened prior to age two will have a negative impact on the person’s emotional and mental health. Since the negative events happened very early in life, it’s impact is for the majority of the person’s life (until death for most people) so a person’s experience in utero and at birth is definitely worth paying attention to.

Physical & Psychological Impact of C-Sections on Baby

Now that we understand how the birth experience can affect a person for the rest of their life, let’s look at the psychological and physical impact on those who were born via C-section. In order to understand the impact, we need to first be clear about what actually happens during a normal vaginal birth so we can appreciate the differences.

Around 32 weeks of gestation, babies begin producing surfactant protein A (SP-A) which serves to attract macrophages (immune cells) from the mother into the uterus. When levels of SP-A reach sufficient amounts (an indication that the baby’s lungs are now developed enough to start breathing outside the uterus), the macrophages in the uterus create a chemical reaction, stimulating an inflammatory response in the uterus that begins the process of labor. We can conclude from this that it is the baby that is suppose to decide when they are ready to be born and that being born earlier jeopardizes their lungs’ ability to develop properly and fully. This is the reason why artificially induced labor and scheduled C-sections make a C-section born person more likely to feel shock, violation, a sense of dependency on others to take initiative or make things happen in their life, and a feeling of not being ready to fully breathe yet. Common symptoms of this in C-section babies are intensive crying, sleeping difficulties, breathing issues, and eating problems (Verdult, 2009). C-section babies also tend to have low Apgar scores which usually means they require more medical intervention (Frias, 2017).

The natural birth process which babies initiate gives them enough time to prepare physically, mentally and emotionally for the birth so that their response to the gradual ebb and flow of any stress that may be caused by the contractions is also gradual thereby teaching them a healthier response to stress. In contrast, the shock a C-section baby feels causes them to experience acute or sudden stress because they are just suddenly pulled out without any warning or preparation (Frias, 2017). The traumatic effect of acute stress causes the baby to respond acutely by automatically shutting down part of their senses and therefore some brain functions responsible for concentration and attention. This explains why C-section babies tend to have problems with concentration and spatial attention (Parry & Borland, 2015).

The contractions of the uterus during labor not only pushes the baby through the birth canal but also helps “seed” the baby with beneficial microbes (probiotics) to protect the baby externally and internally. This is the reason why C-section babies tend to suffer from chronic or autoimmune disorders as children and adults (Pascucci, 2015; Teutsch & Benson, 2010).

The vaginal hormones secreted during labor also promote alertness and bonding between the mother and baby at birth (Coghlan, 2008). This is the reason why C-section babies are a lot less likely to be breastfed compared to vaginally-born babies since the lack of bonding hormones affect breastfeeding initiation, milk supply, and infant breastfeeding receptivity (Frias, 2017). It is no wonder then that C-section born persons tend to have difficulty forming deep or long-lasting bonds or relationships with others (English, 1992; Enhancing The Future, 6/20/2017; Cook, 2006; Verdult, 2009).

As the baby descends and exits the vagina, their head is squeezed enough to release or drain out the fluids in the baby’s middle ear allowing them to hear clearly. This is the reason why C-section babies are 3 times as likely to fail their first hearing test, typically given shortly after birth (Frias, 2017). Though the hearing loss is temporary and typically resolves itself within 72 hours, not being able to hear at birth will prevent the baby from fully bonding with the mother or others and the inability to bond well is in itself a big trauma for a newborn baby who is programmed to seek to bond and unite with their mother right after birth. Additionally, moms who undergo C-section are not allowed adequate time to bond with the baby after they are pulled out of the uterus because her uterus needs to be stitched back up and her abdomen needs to be stitched and/or stapled back up (Nierenberg, 2017). The mom is also given strong painkillers which not only effectively numbs her body, but also her emotions.

For a good summary of the psychological impact of C-sections on moms, see Emotional Impact of Cesareans. For a good summary of the physical impact of C-sections on moms, see Long-Term Effects of Having a C-Section.

Evolutionary Implications of C-sections

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), no country is justified in having a cesarean rate greater than 10% to 15%. However, 31% of births in the U.S. are performed via C-section which is 200%-300% higher than the WHO limit. At least half of the C-sectioned women do it by choice and not by necessity. This is a rate that even The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists admits is worrisome. The U.S. rate is higher than in most other developed countries (Mercola, 2009; Frias, 2017). I suspect that the major reason for this is that 99% of births in the U.S. are done in the hospital where birth complications are financially rewarded and encouraged through the medical management of the birthing process.

According to a small group of researchers from Austria and the USA, large numbers of women having C-sections over a long period of time may influence the evolution of our offspring. Along with rise in delivery by C-section, scientists have noticed a change in human offspring: babies with larger heads. The study speculates that this adaptation is a result of the increase in C-section deliveries which allows babies with larger heads to be born. Prior to C-sections, babies with heads too large to be delivered by natural means would not survive in many circumstances. Whether the baby died in utero or during labor and delivery, the genetics that influenced a larger than normal head would stop there. When offspring with the trait does not reproduce, the trait becomes eliminated or altered to a better version. However, since we are interfering with nature via surgical delivery, we are preventing our species from eliminating this particular birth complication. In other words, high numbers of C-sections, mean higher numbers of babies are being born that survive birth when they would not have otherwise. Too many babies that artificially past the birth test give rise to traits in our offspring that would have been eliminated by nature. Babies with larger than appropriate head sizes will likely pass on the message that this trait is okay and future generations will continue to have babies with heads that are too large to pass through the birth canal. What this could mean for the future is one of 2 things. 1) Future generations of humans might find it impossible to have a baby by vaginal delivery and will only be able to deliver via C-section. Or 2) A higher number of late term miscarriages, stillbirths, and fetal death during labor and delivery due to babies that have head too large to fit through the birth canal (Frias, 2017).

Why a Midwife is a Better Choice than an Obstetrician in Most Cases

Obstetricians are specially trained surgeons who use surgical and other emergency medical interventions for high-risk pregnancies and childbirth. However, more than 75% of women have normal pregnancies, meaning all of the surgical and other medical interventions obstetricians are trained to use are unnecessary and often do more harm than good. The U.S. has the second highest infant mortality rate among developing nations because 99% of babies are delivered by obstetricians in hospitals. For normal pregnancies, a midwife, who is there to offer help, education, and physical and emotional support during pregnancy, labor, delivery and after, is actually the safest, most qualified and experienced birth attendant. Notice the word “attendant.” A midwife is there “attending” the birth, assisting in helping the woman’s body to do what it was designed to do naturally, give birth. This is the type of support that will empower women to take charge of the birth of their own babies in the safest, most comforting and natural way. For example, in the Netherlands, where 33% of deliveries occur in the home with the assistance of midwives, the infant death rate is 25% lower than the U.S. (Mercola, 2009). Midwifery is as old as the birthing process itself (History of Midwifery, 2016).